A second meditation on freedom

When I was trying to write Meditations on Freedom, I had a fragment of song stuck in my head. I could never figure it out. All I could recall was one word (freedom) being belted out in the chorus. I finally recognized it when “The Blues Brothers” was playing in the background. It was Aretha Franklin singing “Think.”

You better think (think) think about what you’re trying to do to me
Yeah, think (think, think), let your mind go, let yourself be free

Oh freedom (freedom), freedom (freedom), freedom, yeah freedom
Freedom (freedom), freedom (freedom), freedom, ooh freedom
–“Freedom,” Aretha Franklin & Teddy White (songwriters)

I said in the last post, “Love limits freedom. When you love someone, truly someone, your hands are truly tied. Freedom dissipates not only with increasing responsibility, but with loyalty and the conviction to do what’s best for the both of you (or the family).  I’m not trying to suggest this is a bad thing, only that it is truth. We are bound in love to not act freely irresponsibly, or without consideration,  instead are bound to the opposites. Or should be.”

I stand by this, but is only one side of the coin. The lyrics of “Think” tell the other side. To truly act in love is to let your mind be free, to be open to the possibilities of sharing, of equality. Yes, to be considerate (“think about what you’re trying to do me”) does place constraints (such as not to be an ass), but to be considerate and treat the other as an equal offers only possibilities and greater freedom.

You need me (need me) and I need you (don’t you know)
Without each other there ain’t nothing people can do, yeah yeah
Think about me (what your trying to do to me) till the fall of night
Think about it right now

Oh freedom (freedom), freedom (freedom), freedom, yeah freedom
Freedom (freedom), freedom (freedom), freedom, ooh freedom

Yes, more is possible as a couple. More possibilities, more freedom to be vulnerable and open with each other. It seems contrary to the freedom of being alone and that’s because it is contrary. Not all freedoms are the same or provide the same things. More hands, more eyes, more voices, more thinking, more is possible than one alone. It’s also having someone to help bear the burdens, help face the fears, and to simply share in the effort. Working together beats working alone, whether cooking dinner or saving the world.

Freedom is an act of love. It is self-love that allows one to love another and allow them the freedom to be who they are. In practicing this, we learn that we are never diminished by another’s success and well-being. This leaves us free to be our own best.

Be nice. It won't hurt either of us.

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